There’s something magical about your 20s —
The world is wide open, the possibilities endless, and yet… the noise is deafening.
Everyone seems to have an opinion about who you should be, what you should do, how you should look, and what your timeline should be.
But here’s the truth, darling :
The true It Girl doesn’t follow the noise — she finds her voice.
Welcome to your becoming. This is your guide to navigating your 20s with grace, guts, and that signature Femme elegance.
✨ Step One : Self-Discovery Is Your Superpower
Your 20s are not about having it all figured out. They’re about asking better questions.
Who am I — when no one’s watching?
What energizes me? What drains me?
What do I want — not what’s trending?
Start small. Journal. Try a new class. Travel (even if just to the next town). Date people. Date ideas. Say yes to some things, and no to many. The It Girl doesn’t rush — she curates.
🗝 Femme Tip : Self-discovery is not selfish. The more you know yourself, the easier it becomes to love, work, and live with intention.
🛑 Step Two : Set Boundaries, Not Walls
When you’re raised to be polite, it’s easy to confuse boundaries with being “mean.” But darling, let’s clear this up once and for all:
Boundaries are not rude — they’re revolutionary.
You’re allowed to say :
- “I need time to think.”
- “I’m not comfortable with that.”
- “That doesn’t align with my values.”
Protect your peace like it’s your favorite vintage clutch — rare, beautiful, and absolutely yours.
🗝 Femme Tip : Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out. They’re about inviting the right ones in.
💖 Step Three : Build Your Emotional Intelligence (EQ is the new IQ)
Being “The It Girl” is not about always being the loudest or the prettiest in the room.
It’s about being emotionally magnetic — the kind of presence people feel even when you’re silent.
And that comes from EQ :
- Recognizing your emotions without letting them rule you.
- Navigating conflict with grace, not drama.
- Listening with your full attention, not just your ears.
🗝 Femme Tip : Emotional intelligence isn’t inherited — it’s learned. Practice every day. Start with empathy, always.
🌷 A Femme Wrap-Up : You Don’t Find Your Voice Overnight — You Grow Into It
Your 20s aren’t about perfection. They’re about direction. You’ll outgrow old dreams, shift beliefs, and maybe even change your entire aesthetic (yes, even that Pinterest board from 2018).
And through it all, your voice will emerge — strong, soft, powerful, and undeniably you.
Be The It Girl who doesn’t chase the spotlight — she becomes the light.
Because in the world of Femme, being iconic isn’t about being famous.
It’s about being fully, fearlessly yourself.
💌 Tell Us, Femme :
Where are you in your journey of becoming?
What are you discovering about yourself today?
Tag us on Instagram @femme_indonesia with #FemmeItGirl and join the conversation.
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